No, I am not a believer; I am a rather open atheist. But there is some wisdom in religious texts and I turn to Romans, 7:15:
“15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. “
(ok, taken out of context just a bit but it will do)
I used to hate the “hall monitor.” And now, as I look at social media and see some of the risks some are taking, including those who claim to take the virus seriously, ….and when some of these get the virus and describe the effects….well, some thoughts I should just keep to myself, though I have little sympathy for our “leaders” who disregarded the rules and got it (example, example)
It appears that “follow my example” type of leadership is obsolete.
Now there ARE some examples of outrageous behavior:
But when a regular person gets it: there are many factors, most of which are unknown to all but a handful: maybe they got infected at work by a jackass like the one in the above video, maybe it was that low probability event infection; maybe it was from another family member or careless member of the bubble, etc. Our failure is really collective:
“Structural issues are, almost by definition, much harder to fix than simply asking people to do the right thing. It’s easy and cheap to yell at people for getting together for Christmas — especially when they really shouldn’t be doing it. Closing down bars and supporting them economically, in turn, requires both political and financial capital.”
But, back to me. The itch to judge others harshly is strong. After all, MY life is disciplined.
1. I am employed with the option to work remotely.
2. I have health insurance.
3. I have no kid living at home; only an elderly spouse.
4. I have no strong family pressure, and if I did, I am enough of an @sshole to just cut them out. I have the means and job to be reasonably self-sufficient, and well, the number of people I actually like is limited. I can “do without” support from people who insist on making unreasonable demands. In fact, if anything, this pandemic has relieved me of having to socialize.
5. I have the internet; I’ve enjoyed bantering with social media friends.
So, the “do not judge” and “walk a mile in another person’s shoes” is good medicine for me; be helpful when I can (among other things).
But to let you know what *I* do…exactly…so you know that I am “walking the walk”:
A sum total of what I do outside the house:
a. work from my solo office (really just me and I close the door)
b. walk outside on sparsely traveled streets and sidewalks.
c. Grocery/drug store run when needed (brief, only necessities)
d. Take out food; quick in and out and eat at home.
e. Doctor visits (not many; one as a support person)
f. A brief, (1 hour) socially distant visit with a bubble buddy (who has tested negative and is herself, very careful)
g. Blood donations (and I get antibody tests)
That’s it: TV sports, books, zoom meetings, home gym and walks/runs.
Yes, there is my spread. Basement needs to be redone but I won’t do that until the gyms have opened (safely opened) and I have a place to workout while it is getting redone).